The People Who Don’t Listen
October 22, 2011
People who dominate.
People who are dominated.
Who belongs in which group? Think about the people you know and how they relate to you or to others. Many people fall into both groups in their interactions with different people. In charge, subordinate, superior, smarter, older, younger, indifferent. Wives, husbands, siblings, students (except for what directly affects their grade), children.
Not listening is aggressive. I do not need you, I do not have to regard you as equal.
Not listening is passive aggressive. I do not find you worth listening to, but I don’t want to say so openly. Or, I am being discounted by you, so I will retaliate quietly, by ‘not hearing’ what you say whenever I think I can get away with it.
I’m not putting friends in either group, you see, because that is how you know someone, whether they’re related to you or not, is your friend. They listen to you. They accept that what you say is valid. They act with what you say as a factor in their decisions.
People who listen are the people you want in your life.
Do you listen?